I'm adopted. When the doctors told my Mom she couldn't get pregnant, she was devastated. She had always wanted a baby boy and a baby girl. I'm sure she was also upset at all the work she went to with my father to get pregnant. Shots, doctors, blood tests, scans, etc. So, naturally, she was ecstatic to receive a phone call on August 10th, 1991 from the adoption agent saying they have a little ginger baby at Desert Sam's for them.
It was from then on that my Mom never missed a moment to tell me how much she still respected pregnancy, even though she could never be pregnant. She would constantly comment about how even though people get pregnant often, and even at unwanted, every baby had to be God's plan. I would ask her why, and she would explain:
Well Ben, in order to get pregnant, everything has to be perfect. There are so many factors that have to happen in a specific order. To have something so beautiful emerge, nothing can go wrong. But, the possibilities for something to go wrong, and the opportunity for something so small in the body to malfunction is statistically very probable.
So then, what about all of these other complicated things that happen? All of these complex cycles that require a million and one things to happen before something else can. I've ranked the top five (in my eyes), most complicated things that a million and one factors on top of each other for an unreal amount of time in order for these complex phenomenon to exist. Five being the least complicated, requiring the least amount of steps, one being the most.
5) Space Shuttle Launch
4) Baking Cookies/Cake
3) Anything Harder Than Calculus
2) Breaking Up Love
1) Love
Don't argue with my about the order of the five, it's really only number one that matters.
I'm not even going to comment on why feel this way. But, next time you find yourself by the fireplace with your significant other, driving down the freeway, or just out to a routine Thursday night Applebee's visit, think about every little event and decision it took to get to where you are, attached for better or worse to the love of your life.
Where did you meet? Make a list of all the things that could have gone differently that would have led you to a different coffee house, or a different town for that matters.
What did you say? There are millions of words in the English language, and trillions and zillions of word combinations that you could utter as your first, second, and third sentences. What were those perfectly formed sentences that attracted the other person?
What were you wearing? She hates Halo, her ex paid way more attention to it than her. You picked your red sweater. She loves red. Good call, why not your Halo shirt? You love that game.
Why then, why now? One of the most tangible things in our lives seems to be dates and times, why not go to the coffee shop an hour earlier? An hour later? Even five minutes late, or five minutes early, you missed her.
I haven't posted in a long while, but I try to leave off with something to take away from my ramblings. There really isn't anything you can change about the way you do things after reading this. I would say just take every opportunity, because you never know if it's something that's been in the works since the dawn of time. But hey, you try taking every opportunity to talk to someone of the opposite sex and tell me how that goes.
The best thing to do from now on is the be quiet, stand back, and learn to discern when everything around seems to have worked out perfectly. Notice when all the blocks are stacked in the right order, at the right time. And then, take that opportunity. Take the house.
And lastly, take a page of of my mother's book. Appreciate the process, even if it doesn't work for you. Everything seems to turn out perfect in the end.
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