All For Granted

Everyone makes mistakes in life. Most are fairly fixable. Whether it's a math problem you make a mistake on, or a harmless mistake on the job. However some mistakes cost people their lives, literally and metaphorically. Heres one mistake I'm going to ask everyone not to make.

And that mistake is taking love for granted.

I'm not talking about loving your neighbor, or loving each other as people. I'm talking about romantic love. I'm not talking about middle school or high school love, which is actually just a thinly veiled carnal urge. I'm talking about legitimate "I-would-be-put-in-a-real-life-situation-of-the-movie-'Saw'-so-you-wouldn't-have-to-love" or the "I'm-willing-to-quit-my-job-and-live-on-a-deserted-island-for-the-rest-of-forever-with-you-love."

An online dictionary. www.usingenglish.com defined "Take for Granted" perfectly, "If you take something for granted, you don't worry or think about it because you assume you will always have it. If you take someone for granted, you don't show your appreciation to them."

A friend of mine once argued that all emotions are chemical, and love is only a physiological response to other interactions and experiences. Even in the most literal sense, I find this cannot be true. Love is nothing short of a God-given gift. It doesn't matter if you're religious or not, no one can argue that love is not just a math problem, but a miracle of nature.

If you're in one of these aforementioned relationships, let me ask you, let me beg you - don't take it for granted. Realize that this ability and this relationship, this bond that you have with this person is a gift, and should absolutely be treasured. Don't ever assume it will always be there, don't ever forget to appreciate it. Indulge it with everything you are.

Stay until she falls asleep, because she wants you there. Do everything you hate just to see a smile on her face. Choose her over other fun and friendly activities, because she's your best friend. Be the last one to text her before she falls asleep, and set your alarm for a few minutes before hers, so you can be the first to text her when she wakes up. Bring her coffee in a snowstorm, and take her shopping in a rainstorm. Don't ever miss an opportunity to tell her how much you love her.

What if you don't do these things? What if you take this miraculously given love for granted?
What if you don't appreciate every last part of it?

I'll let you draw your own conclusion of what could happen from here.

Creepiness, or a Shot in the Dark?

This is a choice you have to make, ladies. You need to call a conference and gather together in one place. Or elect leaders from the community to represent girls everywhere. There is a decision that needs to be made. Because you have the guys a little confused. If we aren't a little creepy, we have to take a shot in the dark. Which do you prefer?

Do you prefer us to do a little bit of background work?

Or just guess what you like?

We have to woo you somehow, and it's only fair that you let us be a little prepared.

Sometimes, everything works out picture perfect. The attraction is immediate, the progress is slow, the results are eventual, but amazing.

But sometimes, for a lot of us hopeless romantics, we set the bar a little high. We fall for what we believe to be the perfect girl. Is she? We'll let the future decide.

Dear Perfect Girl,

I'm sorry I asked your friend about you. I only did it to find out a little bit about you. I did it to find out what you were like. I asked to find out what restaurant I should make reservations at. I asked to find out if you're the kind of girl that liked tulips, roses, daisies, or no flowers when I pick you up.

I'm sorry I checked your Facebook so many times, I wanted to make sure that you weren't "in a relationship", because I wanted to spare you and myself the potential embarrassment I've suffered oh so many times.

I'm sorry that I was looking at you every time you looked up, but it's hard to resist looking at you all time, I want to be sure before I make this incredible leap.

From,

Every guy who swings for the fence.

Girls: Please make up your mind. Is this ok?

Disclaimer: Saph, I do actually regret that Sunshine Note. HaHa.